A Number Doesn’t Define You …You Do!

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Published on Dr Laura April 2017

What is it with age ladies? I feel the same as I did in my 20’s, younger than my 30’s and just catching up to my 40’s, as I stride through life happy in my yoga toned body and a fine pair stilettos. I don’t feel the need to admit my age or even “act” my age …whatever that means. With all of my so called confidence intact, I even celebrated 50 as the big 0, hoping people would presume I meant 40, or even 35 in perfect light. It wasn’t until I was on celebration number 4 in England that I discovered everyone thought I meant the big Orgasm … no wonder everyone wanted to join in the celebration!

’Aging is out of your control, How you handle it though, is in your hands”

Quoted by; Diane Von Furstenberg …at 70, she’s gorgeous, smart, stylish, strong and creator of one of my favorites and perfect at any age … the Wrap dress!

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Thank god for 2016/2017, as more gorgeous women inside and out such as Halle Berry turned 50, Susan Sarandon 70, Julianne Moore 56, just to name a few. All are example’s of women whose spirits and energy seem to shine brighter with each year as they take on new roles and expand their horizons.

In our age obsessed world it’s so refreshing to see these beautiful accomplished women adorning our screens, stages, magazines, social media and most importantly making a difference.

What do all of these women have in common, besides admirers galore, a great pair of shoes and their own undeniable style?

First off, we all know the physical guidelines for a healthy life: eat healthy natural food, drink lots of water, exercise, get a good nights sleep and don’t smoke …

What I’m referring to however is a much deeper resource that we all have at our finger-tips and total control over. The secret ingredient which keeps us luminous and youthful, is from within. Spiritual bliss is timeless, ageless and priceless … just like you.

The celebs I referred to do not let age define them. They know who they are and aren’t ashamed to OWN IT. None of them have tried to fit into a box. They each have and continue to live in their own truth and style …whether it’s Halle Berry feeling blessed turning 50 and honoring her stunning body clothed in sheer white lace, or Susan Sarandon’s fierce independence and activism, or Julianne Moore’s silky red locks, luminous green eyes, grace and humor.

They’re not only attractive because of how they’ve nourished their skin and bodies, they are conscious women who draw upon their god given talent and energy to be all they can be. They’ve embraced the phases of modern womanhood, nurturing their careers, relationships and immersing themselves in the gift of motherhood, while becoming activists for issues and causes bigger than themselves.

Here are three of the pillars to a vibrant youthful existence at any age:

Own it – Perception is Reality.

The true essence of youth and beauty: is mind, body and spirit working in unity, enabling you to approach life as whole being rather than a fragmented, frustrated one. Because you are what you think, feel and do… if you think your old- you are, if you feel old- you are and If you act old –you are.

Don’t limit yourself because of a number or because you have this preconceived idea that you can’t do or learn something new as you age, I learned to surf at 55!

Feel it- Playfulness: Why should kids have all the fun?

A fresh outlook, a new perspective, is how a child views the world. A youthful point of view isn’t stuck in what should be, but open to what can be. Youthful is playful, what more endearing than someone who’s playful, with a big heart, infinite wisdom and is flexible not just because they do yoga, but because they are willing to take a few risks and be spontaneous. A curious, enthusiastic spirit and mind that’s open to new possibilities with child like wonder and creativity IS BETTER THAN ANY YOUTH PILL!

Live it – Purpose is Connection: Connection to your true sprit and what you came here to do, to the people you love,community and to something much bigger than yourself.

Doing things for good feels good, and is good for you because each of us wants to feel relevant, useful and needed in this world. Share your unique talents, your wealth of knowledge and life experience to make a difference in the world. Having real meaning in your life is what really makes us happy.

Stay connected to life long friends and family but also be open to new relationships of every age, race and color. And NO, Face book is not a substitute for human contact, a touch or a smile.

Ultimately, Shift your mindset to one of gratitude for this blessing called life at every age. With an open heart and mind, a little give and take, love and compassion for self and others, an undeniable faith in who you are and what you came here to do, you pretty much have the keys to a vibrant, sassy life worth living!

Own it, Feel it, Live it by Your Own Definition with Wit & Wisdom! Diane xo

 

 

We Are Human BEINGS Not Human DOERS

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Getting the BEING back in our DOING for a more fulfilling, happier work, life, balance.

As published on Intent.com 2/23/17

Whoever invented the TO DO list had a great concept, however, knowing the multi-taskers we are, I’m sure it was a woman, but none the less, I bet, she or he didn’t expect our modern day society to take ‘TO DO” to a whole new stratosphere.

Every day we witness women silently drowning in their “To Do Lists”. Beyond this it appears we’ve become a society which is living under a mindset or more bluntly put, the misconception, that constantly “Doing” is the way to justify our existence: to prove to the world and ourselves that our lives are valuable, that we matter and have relevance. Or should we be asking our self, is it an easy way to avoid the things we don’t want to face and deal with.

As a toddler I was fondly called Dodo by my family, not because I was fascinated by poop or had some special agenda to prove my existence, but because I wanted to explore and do many things for myself and fully experience what was before me at that very moment. In other words, to be fully engaged just as every free spirited toddler is, not at a scheduled time, but to be fully engaged right then and there in the moment. However, as people grow into adulthood so many feel the need to show the world what good “DOERS” they are for some sort of affirmation and to be known for what they DO rather than who they are and the depth of what they’re contributing.

Work, life balance is critical: in other words balancing BEING with your DOING is critical to your success as a “Human Being” on this planet. The majority of American defines success as our careers, but in essence, success is how you approach and live your life in totality as a “whole being” rather than a fragmented one.

Creating a sense of life balance is fundamental to a feeling of overall success and happiness. Balance is achieved with the right blend of BEING versus DOING toward career, community, family and your self.

So how do we practice introducing a little more balance and real connection in our lives so we can become present in our DOING instead of lost in our BEING.

Seven Steps back to being present in your doing

Nurture yourself: it’s not self indulgent it’s self-respect! Think of it as the vehicle, which is going to enable you to be more present, happier and the best for everyone around you.

Throw out the guilt or blame if you don’t get your to do list completed in your self imposed timeline. Step by step find you’re way to treating yourself kindly.

Breathe and find time to go to a place that brings you peace and wraps you in the beauty of mother nature if you can. Breathe to clear the clutter in your mind and reconnect on a level that doesn’t have to have all the answers …just allows you to feel and connect to mind, body and spirit.

Take time daily for you and quiet your mind through meditation, yoga or simply over the ritual of a cup of tea so you can get back to your core, and have a relationship with your most trusted source of knowledge – YOU

Be present in the moment so you can benefit by being engaged in the moment, the experience and continue to learn, grow, flourish and not only enjoy what your doing, but feel the passion in BEING in what your doing.

Add the play back into your life: Work hard, play hard, one feeds the other, just make sure you add a good nights rest to the mix!

Do and be what you love: Give yourself the time and space to find what you love and do it!

I whole heartily believe whether you choose take one or all the aforementioned steps, one of the most important foundations for us all is to be connected to family and friends. Not the toxic ones, but the ones that you can laugh and share your ups and downs with, who know and love you for all your flaws, through the good, bad and mundane. The people who will be your support group when you stop just DOING and are willing to just BE.

Ultimately, remember DOING doesn’t always give us time to DO what we really want or need to DO at a deeper soul level. Living from our soul is what makes our life really worth living, so get back to BEING so you can enjoy what you love DOING!

One of the things I love doing is writing, so I hope you’ve enjoyed “being” in this article with me!

Love Diane.

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Spirituality in Stilettos: Spirituality Bliss with a 21st Century Twist, by Diane…

Spiritual Bliss with a 21st Century Twist.

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As seen in INTENT.COM, published June 13th 2016. written by Diane Danvers Simmons

Spirituality in Stilettos celebrates the beauty, strength and style of a women’s spiritual bliss grounded in the 21st century with an irresistible twist!

Spirituality is truly a big word for spirit … the truth and joy of who we are and Stilettos remind us that we live in the 21st century with all of its mixed messages and noise. Most of us yearn for clarity, balance and connection but we don’t have a year to eat in Italy, pray in India and fall in love in Bali to find ourselves. We need to keep our feet on the ground, but allow our spirits to soar. You have both, be enlightened and embrace the power of mind, body spirit unity: all while hugging a tree, wearing a pair of stilettos and drinking a glass of wine in a sexy red dress.

Finding your spiritual bliss. This doesn’t mean you have to box yourself in, become holier than thou and give up everything else. In essence, it means you have the ability to expand beyond your physical self; We’re multi dimensional beings, made up of layers of conscious and unconscious experiences and roles all stored in our mind, bodies and soul. Only by approaching life as a whole in all of our glorious shades of perfect and imperfect color can we be our original, exceptional, sexy self …we wear many shoes, so be kind and forgiving with yourselves. Spirituality in Stilettos means different things to different people, so be different and be your own judge.

Follow your bliss. First, there is no secret timeline when it comes to Spiritual bliss. Spirituality is our own journey, whatever that may be. I just ask that you choose yours and not someone else’s. I do encourage you to let the fear creep in, face it, but don’t let it stunt you.

Embrace your childlike wonder, be curious, creative and answers will flow. Bliss comes from what your spirit needs, not textbooks, so when you feel doubt. I want to remind you to ask yourself a simple question. “Who has the right to judge your journey?”

Spirituality is limitless …just like you. It’s abundant energy stemming from our heart, which sees all possibilities. It’s our guiding compass that helps us make sense of the world and how we can live our best life in it. It enables us to cultivate who we are with clarity, the infinite wisdom that unleashes our unique gifts, talents and compassion into the world. When our spirit soars it radiates an irresistible energy, a magnet that draws another closer. It’s a gift for us to share.

Spirituality in style- doesn’t let a label define us. It’s the outward expression of whom we are inside. It’s the dress that makes us feel beautiful, the old sweater that say’s I’m comfortable wrapped in my own skin. It’s the fire in our eyes, the glow of our skin and the confidence in our stride. Let your style reflect how you project yourselves to the world. Stop comparing yourself to another, value and take pride in your own style and truth.

Spiritual connection is a lot to process. What we take for granted is our breath; without it we do not exist so take a deep one, and expand your thinking. Take time daily to sink into the quietness, to clear the clutter in our minds and reenergize. Connecting our mind, body and spirit enables us to remember our desires and what’s important to us, not what others expect. By connecting to our core we can make better sense of our place in the world and handle situations and people. It isn’t about being perfect; it’s about being aware.

Spirituality In Stilettos in the 21st century is smart but not always easy to wrap our minds around…and it’s not something that solves all of life’s ups and downs, but it enables us to have faith and hope. Faith in yourself, hope in living in your dreams.

Whatever yours are, I encourage you to allow yourself to be open to the gifts or challenges you’ll face. Once you block out the fear, let your spirit in, trust your intuition, accept and Own your own course, Feel the difference and joy it can bring to your life…then you’ll be truly Living it … and you’ll be ready to strut down the runway of life dressed in your own truth and style.

Diane Danvers-Simmons is a passionate, visionary global citizen who offers solutions to inspire women to embrace their core values and live life by their own definition with wit & wisdom. Through inspired Spirituality in Stilettos programming, uplifting Made by Survivors jewelry, impactful documentaries, and speaking engagements, Diane creates experiences and brands to raise awareness, uplift souls, inspire action, empower and connect people from all walks of life on one universal journey for a brighter, more enlightened future. For more information visit www.ownitfeelitliveit.com.

Spirituality in Stilettos “Own it, Feel it, live it.” – Jewelry that Empowers!

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It’s live from Carmel !!!…I’m happy to announce that the first collection of Spirituality in Stilettos “Own it, Feel it, Live it” jewelry is now available for purchase  at:  http://own-it-feel-it-live-it.myshopify.com/.

I created the Own it, Feel it, Live it symbol as a beautiful piece of jewelry to remind women everywhere that we have everything we need inside of us. It’s fluid design embodies unity and connection to self, each other and the world at large, promoting one universal heartbeat for a brighter, more enlighten world!

Special thanks to:Fred Dias, graphic artist for helping me create the OFL logo and the shopify website; Jewelry designer, John Rox in Lake Tahoe, for taking our vision and making it a reality; Sarah Symons, founder of “Made by Survivors” and the young women she employs for producing the first silver collection of pendants and bangles which I’ve named “Sarvela”.

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”Sarvela” is Sanskrit for connected to all”. Through this collection we have been able to connect with and support each of these talented artisans so that they can become independent; “rise up”, let go of their abused past to move forward and live a healthier, happier life. It is in this way that each of these women personifies the core essence of Own it , feel it, live it.

My goal with Spirituality in Stilettos is to empower women and girls to believe in themselves, follow their dreams and to focus on the positive effect we have emotionally and socially when we support each other.blogbanner

A portion of Jewelry sales go toward targeted programs, film and foundations to raise awareness and action.

Stayed tuned as we step into the next chapter with purpose! 

Own it, Feel it, Live it,  Diane 

Shopping site can be accessed through the “Own it Feel it Live it/Spirituality in Stilettos” website jewelry page or by going directly to http://own-it-feel-it-live-it.myshopify.com/.

 

The power and importance of supporting all women.

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This past weekend I was privileged to be able to mentor young women at CSUMB, as part of WELI, the Women’s Education & Leadership institute, career development program. .

I’m continually inspired by the beauty and powerful resilience of a women’s spirit, but saddened by the cruelty, hardship and unfair discrimination many endure. Even when others would of given up, these capable young women are positive and motivated to learn and step beyond the boundaries life has dealt them.

Success to them is much bigger than simply themselves, it’s the chance to make a difference in someone else’s life, in their community, a chance to reach out and touch someone else’s soul to break the cycle of poverty and abuse. These young women don’t live stuck in the past, instead they are hungry to learn , driven to make a difference and willing to go to school, work one or two jobs, all while caring for family members.

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When you think of heroes, think of these young women.They are the individuals who want to be the change we all want to be and see in the world, authentic souls who speak from a place of knowing.

The women I spent time with are Owning it in the most powerful way possible. I say to them …you are special, you can and you will succeed because you have everything right here inside of you…all they need is someone to take their hand and guide them so they have the tools to move forward.

Where there are programs that support women such as, WELI, The Women’s Fund, Rising International, Made by Survivors, there is HOPE, and where there is HOPE , there is a place for Women to Rise up..

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I will finish with this thought…if we can make a difference, even if it’s just one person, one action at a time and give a girl, a woman a chance…we give our communities and the World a chance for a brighter future and in turn we too will feel the joy and expansion that comes from helping another.

Now, Own it, Feel it, Live it!

 

International Women’s Day 2015 – Make it Happen!

Own it, Feel it, Live it !

Today around the World we recognize and celebrate International Women’s Day!

The theme for all women in 2015 is simple #MAKE IT HAPPEN!

Take the time to think about what you truly want, so you can Make it happen,in your own life and those of others by encouraging effective, positive action, for advancing and recognizing all  women.

Be proud, stand tall and “Own Your Power, Feel Your Spirit and Live Your Life the way you choose with Wit & Wisdom!”

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