We Are Human BEINGS Not Human DOERS

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Getting the BEING back in our DOING for a more fulfilling, happier work, life, balance.

As published on Intent.com 2/23/17

Whoever invented the TO DO list had a great concept, however, knowing the multi-taskers we are, I’m sure it was a woman, but none the less, I bet, she or he didn’t expect our modern day society to take ‘TO DO” to a whole new stratosphere.

Every day we witness women silently drowning in their “To Do Lists”. Beyond this it appears we’ve become a society which is living under a mindset or more bluntly put, the misconception, that constantly “Doing” is the way to justify our existence: to prove to the world and ourselves that our lives are valuable, that we matter and have relevance. Or should we be asking our self, is it an easy way to avoid the things we don’t want to face and deal with.

As a toddler I was fondly called Dodo by my family, not because I was fascinated by poop or had some special agenda to prove my existence, but because I wanted to explore and do many things for myself and fully experience what was before me at that very moment. In other words, to be fully engaged just as every free spirited toddler is, not at a scheduled time, but to be fully engaged right then and there in the moment. However, as people grow into adulthood so many feel the need to show the world what good “DOERS” they are for some sort of affirmation and to be known for what they DO rather than who they are and the depth of what they’re contributing.

Work, life balance is critical: in other words balancing BEING with your DOING is critical to your success as a “Human Being” on this planet. The majority of American defines success as our careers, but in essence, success is how you approach and live your life in totality as a “whole being” rather than a fragmented one.

Creating a sense of life balance is fundamental to a feeling of overall success and happiness. Balance is achieved with the right blend of BEING versus DOING toward career, community, family and your self.

So how do we practice introducing a little more balance and real connection in our lives so we can become present in our DOING instead of lost in our BEING.

Seven Steps back to being present in your doing

Nurture yourself: it’s not self indulgent it’s self-respect! Think of it as the vehicle, which is going to enable you to be more present, happier and the best for everyone around you.

Throw out the guilt or blame if you don’t get your to do list completed in your self imposed timeline. Step by step find you’re way to treating yourself kindly.

Breathe and find time to go to a place that brings you peace and wraps you in the beauty of mother nature if you can. Breathe to clear the clutter in your mind and reconnect on a level that doesn’t have to have all the answers …just allows you to feel and connect to mind, body and spirit.

Take time daily for you and quiet your mind through meditation, yoga or simply over the ritual of a cup of tea so you can get back to your core, and have a relationship with your most trusted source of knowledge – YOU

Be present in the moment so you can benefit by being engaged in the moment, the experience and continue to learn, grow, flourish and not only enjoy what your doing, but feel the passion in BEING in what your doing.

Add the play back into your life: Work hard, play hard, one feeds the other, just make sure you add a good nights rest to the mix!

Do and be what you love: Give yourself the time and space to find what you love and do it!

I whole heartily believe whether you choose take one or all the aforementioned steps, one of the most important foundations for us all is to be connected to family and friends. Not the toxic ones, but the ones that you can laugh and share your ups and downs with, who know and love you for all your flaws, through the good, bad and mundane. The people who will be your support group when you stop just DOING and are willing to just BE.

Ultimately, remember DOING doesn’t always give us time to DO what we really want or need to DO at a deeper soul level. Living from our soul is what makes our life really worth living, so get back to BEING so you can enjoy what you love DOING!

One of the things I love doing is writing, so I hope you’ve enjoyed “being” in this article with me!

Love Diane.

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Spiritual seeker- The power of investing in YOU and the freedom unity brings!

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Congratulations, to all the smart, gorgeous ladies who made the choice to take a couple of hours out of their busy lives to disconnect from all the madness and reconnect to themselves, in beautiful Carmel Valley!

Every workshop I host is different, but the one thing I’m happy to say remains constant is: whenever a group of women comes together and they are open to looking at their lives through a new lens – even if it’s still a pretty dirty one – there is always a beautiful sense of support and unity.

The afternoon we shared amounted to more than our written reflections or the conversations we engaged in. The true reflection and connection came from the silence, the moments when each woman took the time to look into their hearts both through their own eyes and then in the eyes of another.

In truth, no one really knew what to expect, and that’s the beauty… being open to the unexpected and challenging yourself to look at things in a different way. The outcome I hope for all of you is a simple shift in mindset. A shift from “should I” to “I should, I can and I will.” This mindset has the power to liberate us and free us up for what is yet to come.

I will finish by repeating the saying I shared as we celebrated our afternoon over a delicious glass of wine –img_8082

‘When you know and trust yourself on a deeper level and allow yourself to be seen, you will have more clarity, honesty and freedom in your life – and freedom is something we all desire and need!’

 

Spirituality on a Surfboard: Overcoming the Waves of Fear!

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By Diane Danvers Simmons. Published in Wellness.com 2016

“Never say Never” is one of life’s truths I’ve come to relish. I’m proud to share that on a recent adventure I plucked up the courage to learn to surf with four fellow surfing virgins. Forget “the 40 year old virgin”, we were all “the 45 plus virgins”, willing and able to happily admit temporary insanity and conquer some major fears on the shores of Todos Santos!

Even though I’m pretty fit and able, I wasn’t feeling that bold or a 100% willing. I was terrified surveying the crashing waves, as I recollected the time I was tumbled and smashed on the ocean floor …but that’s another story. I had fought my way into the confines of an ill-fitted wetsuit without putting my back out, so, at least I needed to honor that feat and listen to the instructors spanglish.

Fear is like a rip tide pulling us further and further away from all of life’s miracles. The key is to welcome it, own it, and give oneself permission to feel the emotions that surface. I’m not recommending being reckless, but I am sharing how we can dive in and ride the waves of fear back to vibrancy.

FEELS A LOT LIKE  YOGA ON A BOARD TO ME!

FEELS A LOT LIKE YOGA ON A BOARD TO ME!

Loosen up and see the humor in life. We’d already completed our daily practice of yoga, which on one hand meant we were already in the zone, but on the other hand the thought of doing yoga on a surf board was a little daunting…This is the moment I questioned my sanity, but felt comforted by the bond I shared with my fellow angels. Endless humor alleviated much of anxiety that had taken residence in my mind, as we shamelessly practiced our surfing skills on the sand.

Don’t face the fear alone. I thought I was ready but alas, rational fear crept into my mind! After a few fearless strides, I did a 180-degree turn and began to peel off my wetsuit, much to my instructors (Julio) horror. His reaction was instantaneous, kind, but persistent and encouraging. Julio didn’t make me feel stupid and most importantly he didn’t let me give into my fear of being pummeled on the ocean bed. Instead he promised to stay close and guide me, with sister surfer angles cheering me on. Knowing I wasn’t alone or judged got me back on board … literally!

Let go by connecting to your inner child. The excitement and curiosity of youth was building inside, as I paddled out on my board into the unknown. I felt like a child being pushed high into the air on an endless swing, with the nose of the board rising high, crashing over the breaking waves. Soaked in the infinite joy, presence and wonder of childhood play, I let go of the fear as my spirit soared and I lost myself in the thrill of the spill.

Self- trust, being present in the moment. “Stay near Julio!!” OMG here I go again, upward dog…lunge… warrior pose with arms spread eagle …’‘ALLALUJA, I’m up and alive, being carried by the energy of the waves… You can go now Julio!”

I wasn’t walking on water yet, but I was part of it. Time stood still, as I connected to the rhythm of nature in tune with all of my natural instincts. I trusted the strength and wisdom of my own body in the ever-changing moment. I went back out time and again, knowing each time would be different. I felt exhilarated and energized as the waves washed away the stresses of everyday life and the feeling of limitless possibilities replaced them.IMG_3233

The benefits of activities that reignite personal awareness. Whether it’s surfing or any other physical activity engaging in something out of your comfort zone, it reignites our own personal awareness. It expands our consciousness giving us renewed validation of what we can accomplish when we choose to live in the moment, understand our fear and use it as a tool to experience growth.

I’ll finish by saying this, “By changing my perspective, I now understand why surfers become addicted to the spirit of the surf. It’s truly a spiritual experience to feel at one with Mother Nature, connected to the energy and power of the waves and wind, to feel part of something much bigger than you.”

Only one person can stop you and that’s you! Make the choice to welcome your fear home, embrace it, and then let it go so you can LIVE each day as an adventure.

Now go out, have an adventure and embrace your inner child!

Diane xo

 

 

 

The Impact of Women’s Foundations Coast to Coast.

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Women’s Foundations are catalyst’s for change and social change is certainly not for the faint of Heart. However, give a woman a voice and a choice and she’ll always rise up to the job at hand with the strongest of hearts.

This is the renewed conviction and sense of purpose I felt when I walked out of the “Women’s Fund Convening 2016″ in San Luis Obispo, Thursday July 14th.

Like minded women from Women’s Fund organizations up and down the Central Coast of California came together to connect missions, share ideas, and develop actionable solutions, to advance gender equity and economic, social, emotional, and physical wellbeing for all women.

Thank you to activist Tracy Gary for sharing her wisdom, educating us and facilitating our discussions for positive change.

It might start with a village, but in truth, it will take tribes of fearless women of every creed, race and age to  step up with compassion and commitment to develop, fund and implement sustainable solutions.

The good news is that women are already making a difference everyday in the USA through organizations such as The Women’s Foundation.  Only through collaboration and support can we continue to build a better world where not only women, but whole communities can thrive.

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Women’s Fundraising lunch Monterey County ”Building awareness in our communities”

As Bertie Elliot said in a recent interview we filmed with her…

“I ask each of you to look into your own hearts and ask …how can I help?

Thanks to members of the Women’s Fund of: Santa Barbara, Monterey, Northern Santa Barbara, San Luis Obispo, Kern county and Ojai.

Own your choice to make a difference and feel the difference it makes not only in another life, but in yours too. Diane xo

Spiritual Bliss with a 21st Century Twist.

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As seen in INTENT.COM, published June 13th 2016. written by Diane Danvers Simmons

Spirituality in Stilettos celebrates the beauty, strength and style of a women’s spiritual bliss grounded in the 21st century with an irresistible twist!

Spirituality is truly a big word for spirit … the truth and joy of who we are and Stilettos remind us that we live in the 21st century with all of its mixed messages and noise. Most of us yearn for clarity, balance and connection but we don’t have a year to eat in Italy, pray in India and fall in love in Bali to find ourselves. We need to keep our feet on the ground, but allow our spirits to soar. You have both, be enlightened and embrace the power of mind, body spirit unity: all while hugging a tree, wearing a pair of stilettos and drinking a glass of wine in a sexy red dress.

Finding your spiritual bliss. This doesn’t mean you have to box yourself in, become holier than thou and give up everything else. In essence, it means you have the ability to expand beyond your physical self; We’re multi dimensional beings, made up of layers of conscious and unconscious experiences and roles all stored in our mind, bodies and soul. Only by approaching life as a whole in all of our glorious shades of perfect and imperfect color can we be our original, exceptional, sexy self …we wear many shoes, so be kind and forgiving with yourselves. Spirituality in Stilettos means different things to different people, so be different and be your own judge.

Follow your bliss. First, there is no secret timeline when it comes to Spiritual bliss. Spirituality is our own journey, whatever that may be. I just ask that you choose yours and not someone else’s. I do encourage you to let the fear creep in, face it, but don’t let it stunt you.

Embrace your childlike wonder, be curious, creative and answers will flow. Bliss comes from what your spirit needs, not textbooks, so when you feel doubt. I want to remind you to ask yourself a simple question. “Who has the right to judge your journey?”

Spirituality is limitless …just like you. It’s abundant energy stemming from our heart, which sees all possibilities. It’s our guiding compass that helps us make sense of the world and how we can live our best life in it. It enables us to cultivate who we are with clarity, the infinite wisdom that unleashes our unique gifts, talents and compassion into the world. When our spirit soars it radiates an irresistible energy, a magnet that draws another closer. It’s a gift for us to share.

Spirituality in style- doesn’t let a label define us. It’s the outward expression of whom we are inside. It’s the dress that makes us feel beautiful, the old sweater that say’s I’m comfortable wrapped in my own skin. It’s the fire in our eyes, the glow of our skin and the confidence in our stride. Let your style reflect how you project yourselves to the world. Stop comparing yourself to another, value and take pride in your own style and truth.

Spiritual connection is a lot to process. What we take for granted is our breath; without it we do not exist so take a deep one, and expand your thinking. Take time daily to sink into the quietness, to clear the clutter in our minds and reenergize. Connecting our mind, body and spirit enables us to remember our desires and what’s important to us, not what others expect. By connecting to our core we can make better sense of our place in the world and handle situations and people. It isn’t about being perfect; it’s about being aware.

Spirituality In Stilettos in the 21st century is smart but not always easy to wrap our minds around…and it’s not something that solves all of life’s ups and downs, but it enables us to have faith and hope. Faith in yourself, hope in living in your dreams.

Whatever yours are, I encourage you to allow yourself to be open to the gifts or challenges you’ll face. Once you block out the fear, let your spirit in, trust your intuition, accept and Own your own course, Feel the difference and joy it can bring to your life…then you’ll be truly Living it … and you’ll be ready to strut down the runway of life dressed in your own truth and style.

Diane Danvers-Simmons is a passionate, visionary global citizen who offers solutions to inspire women to embrace their core values and live life by their own definition with wit & wisdom. Through inspired Spirituality in Stilettos programming, uplifting Made by Survivors jewelry, impactful documentaries, and speaking engagements, Diane creates experiences and brands to raise awareness, uplift souls, inspire action, empower and connect people from all walks of life on one universal journey for a brighter, more enlightened future. For more information visit www.ownitfeelitliveit.com.

Stop Trying to Find Yourself – Be Yourself.

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By Diane Danvers Simmons, creator of Own It, Feel It, Live It, for eHarmony Advice, published June 7th 2016.
In this fast-paced, high-tech world we often feel lost, confused, and absent of meaningful connections to self and others. We’re becoming numb, deflated to the negative behavior of the housewives of stupidity and the fantasy images too often portraying our gender.

Our lives spin like a revolving door and we certainly don’t have a year to sit on a mountain top to find ourselves, but here’s the secret, we don’t need to find ourselves …we’re right here, housed in this gorgeous vessel called a body, that’s been with us since the day we were born.

We just need let go of what think we should be and remember to just BE true to ourselves and recognize that our total well-being cannot be separated from what we think, feel, and do for a meaningful life…but how do we get there?

Own it, Feel it, Live it: These are three simple steps, our mantra for a new way of living by reconnecting and rebalancing our mind, body, and spirit, our core essence, for a deeper feeling of self, clarity, and growth for a happier, healthier whole life.

Step 1. Own Your Power

Be self-aware: step into a relationship of trust and well-being with no one other than yourself. Owning it takes courage, raw honesty, and real work, but it’s the place we need to go if we really want to understand why and where we stand today. Take back ownership of your life by…

Accepting responsibility for the choices you’ve made, good and bad, and understanding how they’ve impacted your relationships and the world.

Acknowledge that only you can change your story, your mindset, your attitude, your situation to be the author of your own story.

Acknowledge that our lives are a collective of past, present, and future. Take the best of the past, be present in your daily interactions and embrace that everything has a time and a place, so you can live a full engaged life.

Let go of toxic situations that deflate your soul. You don’t have control over other people’s choices or behaviors, but you do your own.

Step 2. Connect to Your Feelings
We are all pure energy in motion fed by our heart, ignited by our spirit, distracted by our minds, all housed in our bodies. The question for most is whether we feel balanced, connected to our whole being and passions or are we fragmented, confused, and stagnant?

Be present in your emotions by:

Feeling the waves of joy and pain that a life well-lived brings: allow yourself to be vulnerable, notice what triggers you, where and how you feel tension in your body, breathe through the emotion, journal it and let it go, so you can keep walking forward.

Actively engaging our senses daily: for example, when greeting a friend, look into their eyes, hear the tone of their voice, and embrace them so they feel your presence. When we enliven our senses we heighten our intuition for more fulfilling experiences.

Connecting to our breath, our hearts, our life source through meditation, a walk in nature or yoga to feel the wisdom and joy of your mind, body, and soul flowing in unity, hear the beliefs you hold true and embrace total well-being.

Step 3. There’s life and then there’s living…

To live life we choose to be flexible, mindfully observant, and joyously present. When our mind, body, and spirit are working in harmony, we function as a whole being, not a fragmented one. By blocking out the noise we can pay attention to our own voice, desires, gifts and needs with clarity thereby enabling what we think, feel, and do to flow seamlessly with confidence for happier, healthier lives. We’re free to BE who we are, what we love, and to love.

Each day dip into the silence and ask these simple questions to stay on the path to living life by your own definition:

What am I choosing to focus my attention on, am I investing in my own dreams or someone else’s?

What feelings or sensations did this bring up in my body and where in my body?

Am I just functioning and going through the motions or am I participating in creating and living the life I want or just waiting for it to happen?

Diane Danvers-Simmons is a passionate, visionary global citizen who offers solutions to inspire women to embrace their core values and live life by their own definition with wit & wisdom. Through inspired Spirituality in Stilettos programming, uplifting Made by Survivors jewelry, impactful documentaries, and speaking engagements, Diane creates experiences and brands to raise awareness, uplift souls, inspire action, empower and connect people from all walks of life on one universal journey for a brighter, more enlightened future. For more information visit www.ownitfeelitliveit.com.

 

 

Spirituality in Stilettos “Own it, Feel it, live it.” – Jewelry that Empowers!

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It’s live from Carmel !!!…I’m happy to announce that the first collection of Spirituality in Stilettos “Own it, Feel it, Live it” jewelry is now available for purchase  at:  http://own-it-feel-it-live-it.myshopify.com/.

I created the Own it, Feel it, Live it symbol as a beautiful piece of jewelry to remind women everywhere that we have everything we need inside of us. It’s fluid design embodies unity and connection to self, each other and the world at large, promoting one universal heartbeat for a brighter, more enlighten world!

Special thanks to:Fred Dias, graphic artist for helping me create the OFL logo and the shopify website; Jewelry designer, John Rox in Lake Tahoe, for taking our vision and making it a reality; Sarah Symons, founder of “Made by Survivors” and the young women she employs for producing the first silver collection of pendants and bangles which I’ve named “Sarvela”.

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”Sarvela” is Sanskrit for connected to all”. Through this collection we have been able to connect with and support each of these talented artisans so that they can become independent; “rise up”, let go of their abused past to move forward and live a healthier, happier life. It is in this way that each of these women personifies the core essence of Own it , feel it, live it.

My goal with Spirituality in Stilettos is to empower women and girls to believe in themselves, follow their dreams and to focus on the positive effect we have emotionally and socially when we support each other.blogbanner

A portion of Jewelry sales go toward targeted programs, film and foundations to raise awareness and action.

Stayed tuned as we step into the next chapter with purpose! 

Own it, Feel it, Live it,  Diane 

Shopping site can be accessed through the “Own it Feel it Live it/Spirituality in Stilettos” website jewelry page or by going directly to http://own-it-feel-it-live-it.myshopify.com/.

 

Spirituality in Stilettos at the Sunset Cultural Center Carmel

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FullSizeRender-3Special thanks to the Sunset Cultural Center, Carmel, for inviting me to  be a keynote speaker as part of the Healing Arts Series. The series mission is to foster community vitality through education and enrichment programs such as, Spirituality in Stilettos – Own it Feel it Live it (OFL), for better wellness in our everyday lives.

Heartfelt thanks, to over 65 people who filled the room ready to open their minds, and hearts to connect, and support each other as they listened to the value of paying attention to the details of their lives through three simple steps, OFL, to reconnect, rebalance and reignite mind, body, and spirit. It was so rewarding and inspirational to watch people be open to new ways of thinking, go within, embrace the philosophy of mind, body, spirit unity, laugh, cry and  to share their experiences as the evening unfolded with the entire group.

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Forums such as these reinforce my belief in the importance and power of human connection, to self, each other and the difference we can make when we come together to support each other in  personal growth and empowerment. My hope is to help people expand with love, trust, and compassion, rather than be held hostage by fear.

Genuine Connection and Community is key to our own wellbeing and the wellbeing of mankind!!

Immense gratitude to my friends and family who continue to push and support me on my journey with SIS/ OFL…you know who you are and I love you !!

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Sharing the “Own it, Feel it, Live it” principles at the IMPOWER luncheon

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It was such an honor to be the keynote speaker at the IMPOWER group`s luncheon this past week with over 225 business women and men in attendance. These women and men recognize the importance of collaboration and reinvesting in themselves, each other and the community as a whole.

ImageWhat a great crowd…where else can you get over 225 people in a room to close their eyes, be totally silent and practice a meditative breathing exercise!

I felt such positive energy while sharing my journey to create Spirituality in Stilettos, the philosophy of “Own it, Feel it, Live it” and the power of mind, body, and spirit unity. My number one purpose was to remind and inspire women to value who they are and what they have to offer the world…which is A LOT Ladies! 

It truly is empowering, as well fun,  to meet like minded women who are committed to creating environments where women in business can come together, connect, exchange ideas and teachings for meaningful growth; with the added bonus of supportive male co workers in attendance.

Many thanks to co founders Margaret D’Arrigo – Martin and Cathy Schlumbrecht for believing in me and most importantly creating such a tremendous forum where meaningful partnerships and friendships are established and fostered to grow.

Giving from the heart – Feel it !

 

 

Enjoy our latest video for CFMC and remember the power of “Giving from your Heart” and the difference you can make in an-others life. It was such a joy to interview a woman, namely, Bertie Elliott, who lives in her truth and whose generosity shines a light on so many.

Thank you

Diane