A Number Doesn’t Define You …You Do!

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Published on Dr Laura April 2017

What is it with age ladies? I feel the same as I did in my 20’s, younger than my 30’s and just catching up to my 40’s, as I stride through life happy in my yoga toned body and a fine pair stilettos. I don’t feel the need to admit my age or even “act” my age …whatever that means. With all of my so called confidence intact, I even celebrated 50 as the big 0, hoping people would presume I meant 40, or even 35 in perfect light. It wasn’t until I was on celebration number 4 in England that I discovered everyone thought I meant the big Orgasm … no wonder everyone wanted to join in the celebration!

’Aging is out of your control, How you handle it though, is in your hands”

Quoted by; Diane Von Furstenberg …at 70, she’s gorgeous, smart, stylish, strong and creator of one of my favorites and perfect at any age … the Wrap dress!

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Thank god for 2016/2017, as more gorgeous women inside and out such as Halle Berry turned 50, Susan Sarandon 70, Julianne Moore 56, just to name a few. All are example’s of women whose spirits and energy seem to shine brighter with each year as they take on new roles and expand their horizons.

In our age obsessed world it’s so refreshing to see these beautiful accomplished women adorning our screens, stages, magazines, social media and most importantly making a difference.

What do all of these women have in common, besides admirers galore, a great pair of shoes and their own undeniable style?

First off, we all know the physical guidelines for a healthy life: eat healthy natural food, drink lots of water, exercise, get a good nights sleep and don’t smoke …

What I’m referring to however is a much deeper resource that we all have at our finger-tips and total control over. The secret ingredient which keeps us luminous and youthful, is from within. Spiritual bliss is timeless, ageless and priceless … just like you.

The celebs I referred to do not let age define them. They know who they are and aren’t ashamed to OWN IT. None of them have tried to fit into a box. They each have and continue to live in their own truth and style …whether it’s Halle Berry feeling blessed turning 50 and honoring her stunning body clothed in sheer white lace, or Susan Sarandon’s fierce independence and activism, or Julianne Moore’s silky red locks, luminous green eyes, grace and humor.

They’re not only attractive because of how they’ve nourished their skin and bodies, they are conscious women who draw upon their god given talent and energy to be all they can be. They’ve embraced the phases of modern womanhood, nurturing their careers, relationships and immersing themselves in the gift of motherhood, while becoming activists for issues and causes bigger than themselves.

Here are three of the pillars to a vibrant youthful existence at any age:

Own it – Perception is Reality.

The true essence of youth and beauty: is mind, body and spirit working in unity, enabling you to approach life as whole being rather than a fragmented, frustrated one. Because you are what you think, feel and do… if you think your old- you are, if you feel old- you are and If you act old –you are.

Don’t limit yourself because of a number or because you have this preconceived idea that you can’t do or learn something new as you age, I learned to surf at 55!

Feel it- Playfulness: Why should kids have all the fun?

A fresh outlook, a new perspective, is how a child views the world. A youthful point of view isn’t stuck in what should be, but open to what can be. Youthful is playful, what more endearing than someone who’s playful, with a big heart, infinite wisdom and is flexible not just because they do yoga, but because they are willing to take a few risks and be spontaneous. A curious, enthusiastic spirit and mind that’s open to new possibilities with child like wonder and creativity IS BETTER THAN ANY YOUTH PILL!

Live it – Purpose is Connection: Connection to your true sprit and what you came here to do, to the people you love,community and to something much bigger than yourself.

Doing things for good feels good, and is good for you because each of us wants to feel relevant, useful and needed in this world. Share your unique talents, your wealth of knowledge and life experience to make a difference in the world. Having real meaning in your life is what really makes us happy.

Stay connected to life long friends and family but also be open to new relationships of every age, race and color. And NO, Face book is not a substitute for human contact, a touch or a smile.

Ultimately, Shift your mindset to one of gratitude for this blessing called life at every age. With an open heart and mind, a little give and take, love and compassion for self and others, an undeniable faith in who you are and what you came here to do, you pretty much have the keys to a vibrant, sassy life worth living!

Own it, Feel it, Live it by Your Own Definition with Wit & Wisdom! Diane xo

 

 

Spirituality & Style: The Foundation for Confidence

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by Diane Danvers Simmons, 

Published on HuffingtonPost.com & GalTime.com July 2016.

Give a girl a pair of shoes and she can conquer the world.  Marilyn Monroe

Spirituality in Stilettos  celebrates a women’s spiritual bliss grounded in her own Truth and style !

 Maybe Style isn’t the first word that comes to mind when talking about spirituality, but the secret is that the two are not mutually exclusive; actually together they are a harmonious powerful duo. After all Spirituality is just a big word for the truth and joy of whom we are.

Embracing our spiritual bliss doesn’t mean we have to give up everything we love about style and fashion. In essence, style is the infinite expression of our creativity, our own unique way we present ourselves to the world. The truth we often forget is, style and spirituality have been intertwined since the beginning of time. They are a distinct hallmark of ceremonies, traditions and cultural expression.

Liberate yourself and honor your own Spiritual Style by embracing the following:

Own it – Spirituality and Style is the outward expression of our inner self.

Style gives people a perspective of who we are through our actions and appearance, our reflection for the world to view, an expression of our creative flair. Style gives us the chance to be curious and explore what suits not just our body and situation but our life and all the options open to us.

Think about it for a moment. When we go into a meeting or out on a date, we take time to think about how we want to present ourselves to the world. WHY, because to often we only get one chance at a first impression and we want to ensure it’s a good one. Our outward demeanor is an indicator of our inward expression. It’s not the totality of who we are, but it does give others a clue as to who we are.

Feel it– Spiritual style exudes Confidence:

Each of our unique qualities and style, so take ownership and pride in them and show them to the world. Style is the gauge and companion of our every mood and action. A chosen Style makes a statement without even having to open our mouth. It says I’m comfortable in my skin and with my choices. I know what and how I feel right now.

I’m willing to own my choices, tap into my heart and share who I am and what I have to offer the world…even if it’s not your taste.

It’s the dress that makes us feel beautiful with a pair of stilettos that scream I’m ready to conquer the world. Our favorite pair of jeans and big comfy sweater that says I’m relaxed in my own skin.

Live it -Don’t let a label define you!

Ask yourself, could the label on the garment or the shoe be your name …NO, unless you’re lucky enough to be Donna Karan or Diane Von Furstenberg! A label does not define us, it is not the be and end all of our existence. We give the label life and validity by how you wear it. When you find a designer, a style that highlights all your gorgeous qualities and makes you feel fabulous …then you have style and spirituality working in harmony, it Your label. Stop comparing yourself to another, value and take pride in your own style and truth and trust that others will see and accept you for you, not a label.

Style has a language of it’s own that goes beyond geographical borders

Style has a language that goes beyond the constraints of the spoken word. Style acknowledges and respects diversity and individuality.

Spirituality doesn’t have a dress code. It offers us a free pass to pay attention to the details in our life, to have fun with your own creativity and express yourself the way you want and feel for the occasion. Remember you can’t please all of the people all the time, so please yourself!

Ultimately, it’s the fire in your eyes, smile on your face, a positive attitude and the energy in your stride that are the best foundation for any outfit and attitude shows the world you’re willing and ready to….Strut down the runway of life dressed in your own truth and style and live life by your own definition.

Diane Danvers-Simmons is a passionate, visionary global citizen who offers solutions to inspire women to embrace their core values and live life by their own definition with wit & wisdom. Through inspired Spirituality in Stilettos programming, uplifting Made by Survivors jewelry, impactful documentaries, and speaking engagements, Diane creates experiences and brands to raise awareness, uplift souls, inspire action, empower and connect people from all walks of life on one universal journey for a brighter, more enlightened future. For more information visit www.ownitfeelitliveit.com.http://i0.wp.com/galtime.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/06/Diane-headshot.png